I remember those feelings well and the desire to do almost anything to forget them 🙁 Chances are you were already feeling bad about some things before the gambling and the drinking got worse and then they just keep adding to each other and new lows seem to be reached. Monica is right. Once you are at a point where you realize how much damage it is doing to yourself and you want to face it, well, that is usually the turning point. I can’t tell you to tell your partner. But I suspect he must realize money isn’t going as far as it should be. Whether it’s to help you “budget better” or “not impulse shop” is there anyway to redirect your pay to your partners account or work on budgeting together, or even just talk about the finances. I started telling hubby a year ago where money was coming and going from and to all the time. Accountability. Especially in the beginning. It is so hard to not just shut that yelling baby up and giving in. But the alternative is worse. Sliding further down the rabbit hole. Hang in there. Counseling would definitely be so helpful if you could get some. Talk to them on the help line here. They may have some ideas for you of free options. Night Lass.
Laura
