I am so sorry that this is happening to you. This addiction is horrible and ruins people’s lives. I had read your thread a few weeks ago and my heart is hurting for you. I have done many selfish things to my partner and kids over the years and have asked myself many of the same things you are in this post – I thought I was a monster.
your partner has the right to be very upset with you and to demand his money back. However, you do not deserve to be called names, to be publicly humiliated, or to be threatened with physical violence. These are all forms of abuse. I dont Know you and only know the information in your post but I do know that violence in a relationship escalates over time, it often goes from control issues, to emotional abuse/name calling, to physical violence. Please stay safe. you make a very valid point as to why he made you hold on to a large sum of money when you are less than a year with no gambling and I would question what his motives are.
you are a good person and you deserve all the happiness in this world. You stayed gamble free for a significant amount of time and you can do it again!!