Hi Whattodo
It seems to me that your husband is in a cycle but because it isn’t on a daily or weekly basis it is harder to spot but you have spotted it and that is why your alarm bells are ringing.
I am not surprised that you have trouble with “the story that he wanted me to help him quit and that he couldn’t do it without me story”. I wouldn’t say you are wrong in believing his intentions are good but your experience tells you that this is just another ruse to get money for gambling and I believe that experience counts for everything with this addiction. The more times the same cycle (however long) repeats itself the more there is cause to trust in your own judgement than what you are hearing. The alarm bells are ringing for a reason.
I cannot tell you what to do which is not me opting out but it is important that you make your own decisions on what you do. Informed decisions are best, however and it is that information that this forum seeks to offer.
Do you believe he gambles with the allowance you give him for gas and food? Does he earn enough to cover these things for himself if he were not gambling? Does he give you receipts for the gas and food – which would be the usually behaviour for many CGs who ask for support in controlling their addiction? In my opinion, if he is earning enough to pay for gas and food himself, it is acceptable to withdraw the top-up.
Speak soon and if possible please access the F&F group on Tuesday.
Velvet
