HI Tina,
I know it is such a struggle to say those words that are going to change your relationship forever. Maybe end it. Charles is right, better that he hear it from you then find out another way. You have been in denial this past two years that your gambling addiction was gone. Once a CG always a CG. Just like an alcoholic. Having to be repeatedly bailed out by family was a sure sign that you were a gambling addict. It’s not because we don’t have enough money, it’s not because life has more stresses for us than others, we are just hooked and always will be!
I am not unsympathetic, trust me, I had to do it once, and I should be doing it again! I’ve been dabbling again. More controlled as you would say as I have many barriers in place. It’s been over four months since my last bet but I feel i have to be on top of this every day!
I pray you find the strength that you need to tell your partner. You may need more intensive face to face counseling if possible in addition to the GA counseling. Attack this from all points possible.
Our lives would surely have been different if we hadn’t discovered gambling. But that’s not reality. We did. What would you tell a client if they said this about their drug or alcohol addiction?
Keep fighting Tina, you can get through this a better, stronger person.
Laura