Hi Tina ,
I think the GA guidelines are don’t tell people if it will cause them damage – and I think you have made the right decision with regards to your elderly parents .
I don’t tell people because I know how much it would damage my son. There is a thin line between relieving ourselves of our guilt and actually putting our pain and shame on to others.
You have really good insight and are not blindly following anyone else’s opinion. Well done on your decisiveness.
Hope today goes well with your partner ! Will be thinking of you .