Most apt name or at least the name we can see. And welcome to the forum. I read your posts yesterday and wanted to respond then but I can see other valued members of this forum have replied.
Having been addicted to various things in life, but never drugs funnily enough, I definitely think there is such a thing as the addictive personality. And different addictions come in at various points. My gambling was late at 54 and 55 and came at a point where I had lost my faith always having a strong spiritual foundation in life. I simply didn’t care any more. It takes an act of faith is recovery with trusting our higher power which for me has been life transforming, read my history of what an awful place I was in with a prolonged rock bottom.
Being of service definitely helps, in helping others we can enjoy life more and get much more out of it than we think.
I personally think fishing out the root causes, sometimes multiple causes in a good programme like gma or counselling definitely helps on the recovery road. I disagree that it doesn’t matter why, it actually does. When we know the why we can address some of those things. For me it was what I call a perfect storm of things that set off the self destructive gambling addiction.
When we were younger, it was boredom or simply wanting to feel high or feel the self confidence that alcohol brings in shy indiduals or those who struggle with intimacy issues. Afraid of being too intimate because attachment brings pain. I can certainly relate to that.
Anyways, I think you have some very interesting insightful things to say. I wish u a happy new gf 2019.