Doing it in On our own will never work. The reason being that we enter a period of abstinence which is never recovery. I had a five and a half year gambling period and in that time entered long periods of abstinence, sometimes as long as nine months after counselling with Gamcare. But this never got to the real roots, was superficial andonly when I entered into recovery on the gma womens programme did that happen. Recovery takes work on ourselves, acknowledging our issues that led to the gambling and working through them and that can be emotionally painful sometimes. Get as much support as you can.
nYour husband throwing gambling in your face is never going to help you. He probably needs support and Velvet on here has a friends and family group. However, if he is like most of the alpha men I know, he wont do it! My family never interfered with my gambling and helped me in recovery only in practical ways when I was destitute by bringing me food etc. Otherwise, in terms of emotional support there was nada. Sometimes we cant expect our families to understand or support, if they do I consider ourselves fortunate. Even now my elderly mother asks me to go and get her daily scratch cards when I see her. They just dont get it.
nRegaining trust is done by Remaining gf one day at a time and working the programme, . Become aware of your emotional triggers. HALT, hungry, angry, lonely, tired and even being happy can be triggers.
nThe voice in our head saying, you can do it once more or visualising those little reels on our favourite slot is just the addiction speaking. We starve that beast one day at a time and eventually it shuts up..
