The simple reason neither my wife or father will help look after my funds is that it is a road too well travelled and they have had enough, they simply do not have the fight or interest. They have both made it very clear this is my last shot if I want a continued relationship with either of them and I have to prove I can do it for myself.
I cannot argue with you at all that this makes things a lot harder, but it does also make things a damn sight more realistic. Not gambling because you have to money is nowhere near the same as choosing not to gamble even though you have the ways and means. Because there are so many failed attempts behind me (most of which include supposedly not having access to funds – there are always payday lenders, logbook lenders etc.) this time I have to do it for myself.