Hi Sandy
It is really good to see the interaction between you and Clare but I believe it would help you further if you were to start your own thread – Clare will still be able to respond to you.
No two threads are identical; every member is different and every member deserves to receive responses to his/her unique problem.
Many members find they share similar experiences but in my experience receiving responses on your own thread about that which is concerning ‘you’ help you to feel less alone.
I cannot respond to you further on Clare’s thread even though I have read things in your posts that could possibly benefit from further input.
I hope you will consider starting you own thread and if you do I will be delighted to get to know you better
Velvet