Hi Samy
You are already doing the best thing – you are seeking support and you have come to the right place for understanding and knowledge to help you cope.
I have only just finished my group so I will not be able to write much to you tonight but I will hopefully write more tomorrow.
It appears that your husband has a gambling problem that has got out of hand – is this the first time this has happened?
While you are feeling so shocked Samy it is best to do nothing until you know what it is that is right for you to do – give yourself time to understand what is possibly going on with your husband. If he has an addiction to gamble he will not have asked for it or wanted it in his life anymore than you want it.
it is easier to shout at someone who has just lost all their money than to listen to see why it happened but If your husband has a real problem then he will be unhappy, his confidence and self-esteem will be non-existent. However much he seems in control – he isn’t.
I can’t write more tonight Samy but please know you are in the right place and your husband can control his addiction if he has one – if he couldn’t I wouldn’t be writing to you now.
Velvet
