Hi S, (hope I don’t get told off for my reply as I think everyone here just wants to help and we all view things according to own unique experiences but here goes )
Firstly I am so pleased to Read that you and your sister haven’t repeated history by developing a gambling addiction yourselves.
My mum also has a gambling addiction and it something I also have had to struggle with but I have now overcome it and am living a very happy life.. It’s so difficult to overcome one addiction-never mind three but it is possible and people do it every day .
I immediately liked u as a person .i liked how you could see the good in your mother and stated it so clearly . I liked how u genuinely want to help her have a happy life- the help you want to give is about your mum not you which is hugely admirable . I liked how you did not need to use any derogatory words to describe your mum. Your love for your mum leaped off my screen.
I think though ( and forgive me if I’m wrong) that perhaps you whole life has been spent “fixing things ” and maybe it’s time to take a step back and put yourself first . In my case , and my mum is lovely and I want to buy her everything and give her everything , but I know that it is bad for me to spend time with her without my partner somewhere in the wings . I have had to take a major step back , and I do feel guilty but I have to put my own family first . I have to put my recovery first . I don’t love her any less .
I think Velvet’s suggestion about residential treatment is really good . It sound like your mum is using a lot of props to get through life and a break from everything could be just the thing to stop the cycle of addiction and give her space to work through issues and even forgive herself .
I wish I could be of more help but I am not an expert in addictions and can only speak from my own experience . However I do believe heal the body and the mind will follow . I think it might be helpful for your mum, to see her gp with a view to getting some dietary supplements suitable for those with alcohol issues as alcoholism plays havoc with the body’s nutritional status .
Please stay posting . You will find people from all backgrounds on here and with all types of experiences . It will help you understand your mother’s addiction ( as much of any of us can understand it ) and it can be somewhere where you will get to talk about the effect of this addiction on you .
Hope this has helped a little