Hi Ponty
You did fantastically well allowing him to use his own judgement when your gut must have been screaming please say ‘no’.
I agree with you completely over the therapist’s opinion. You don’t have to be a professional to see danger.
I am delighted he returned when you said you were uncomfortable.
I cannot tell you what to do and in any case I think you already know the answers to your questions – the hard bit is acting on what you believe to be right. Many moons ago my CG (who lives in control of his addiction) told me that ‘testing’ an addiction/gambling problem is not accepting a real and present danger.
The addiction to gamble must, I believe, always start with fun – nobody would ever start if they knew that addiction was to be the outcome of what appeared to be a harmless pastime. If there is a problem it is often overlooked as ‘just a bit of bad luck’ but problems can become addictions and I think my question to your husband would be ‘was it worth the risk?’
I suggest you talk to your husband exactly as you have written in your post and maybe pose the thought that the evening that was supposed to be for fun could have been the start of a roller-coaster ride that didn’t have a good ending.
I don’t think you are confused – you are making sense – well done.
Velvet
