Hi Pink
You have made a difficult decision and you are divorcing your husband because you feel that his behaviour is intolerable. I would never have suggested that you left him or that you stayed with him, the decision had to be yours. You have made the decision that is right for you as the mother of two beautiful, young children who need you to be strong and I admire your bravery.
I think you keep kids safe by being there for them, answering their questions, protecting them from the bad things in life as much as possible and having fun with them.
I am not making excuses for him but I hope it helps to know that your husband did not ask for or want his addiction, an addiction that almost certainly makes him feel worthless. I suggest that he lacks self-confidence and self-esteem. but you should not and do not, have to allow his addiction to ruin your life as well.
Courts should take account of a gambling addiction which is being recognised more and more as a serious problem and is, in my view, every bit as dangerous and distressing as drugs and alcohol. The problem is that taking legal advice costs lots of money but it may be the best course for you.
I hope you will keep posting and let us know how you are.
I hope you will be able to put these bad experiences firmly behind you and not let them mar your future.
I wish you and your children peace and security
Velvet