Hi Nm
The way your boyfriend started gambling is the way that many compulsive gamblers got hooked, he played for fun with friends but unlike his friends he couldn’t walk away and that is addiction.
I know that many CGs who go through rehab are quieter when they come home. What did you expect him to be like and in what way is he showing that he hasn’t changed?
Many CGs who go through the GMA programme do not go to meeting afterwards as it is a more holistic approach to the gambling addiction and sometimes that is enough but I don’t know of a 21 day rehab so I cannot comment.
If your boyfriend has faced his demons he may have to dig very deep and he may not want to talk about it, he may be processing what he has learned and deciding what he wants to do with his life.
My experience post-rehab was certainly not one I could have expected. My CG had to learn to trust me rather than the other way round. You say that there are still fears but are these your fears or his?
It might be that you have to let him work his way through this and maybe it is better if you just listen when he speaks and don’t question him. The greatest help you can give your boyfriend is for you to look after yourself because if he is shouldering responsibility for the mess he has made in his life it is better for him if you are not part of the wreckage.
If you suspect he is gambling then that is very different but I don’t hear that suggestion in your post. If you do suspect it, you must be very sure because if he is not and he really is trying to control a terrible addiction he needs support.
I will leave this post here and await your reply so that I can understand better what it is that is concerning you.
Velvet
