Hi NM
I can hear and understand your conflict. He is falling asleep at work and not making contact as he appears to have done in the past when he was not necessarily gambling.
He seems to be doing well with you managing and saving his paychecks and maybe he is telling the truth when he says he has fallen asleep etc., but I would struggle with the behaviour you have described. Of course I also struggled with some fear and doubt in the early days and it does take a long time NM to fully trust again but it is possible with a few simple changes to your lives to improve your relationship now.
Determine not to live in fear of the addiction’s shadow because your life will be diminished if you allow fear to take over and you will not be able to enjoy your relationship which will affect both of you. I suggest you ask for some thoughtful support such as a simple answer when you phone or a call back to set your mind at rest so that you can be the happy bunny he would like to see when he comes home. It is, of course, important not to overdo the calls, you don’t want to sound as though you are constantly checking up and also to remember that sometimes people are asleep or very busy or they have even, (like me), not noticed the battery has run-down!
Keep posting
Velvet
