Hi Monicau,
I just saw your email and gees this site is hard to stay away from. I just love replying to people and most likely just love the sound of my own voice…hehe. I also feel a certain kinship to you… I am so extremely sensitive sometimes and especially when it comes to gambling stuff. It took so much from me that it taking anymore in any form is just not allowed for me. It just digs right into a place that I don’t allow.
Thank you so much for this post. I really needed it. I’m definitely going overboard on this one but it just irks me so when someone says your truth is a lie to them. It’s just like…why? Why won’t this person just believe me and be empathetic. Last night I was respectful upon his request to talk personally over the hotline, we talked for a few minutes but I was busy at work. He literally belittled my gambling problem to me and my debt as if my problems weren’t enough for him and since I make this amount of money why would I even have a problem, etc. Then told me he didn’t believe what I was saying and asked me to explain my earnings to him which I did and then after that he was like thanks for explaining that helps but I still don’t believe you…Then today spouts off about this and that. I didn’t even get to finish what we were talking about because I had to finish work and got dragged away. The dude should take a chill pill on me and just let it go. Obviously I don’t like his views and don’t think I need his advise if it feels negative. I have said a number of times I would welcome his advise and thoughts, but please keep it a little shorter and be positive about my recovery and respond to my questions with answers as well and believe me when I answer.
About the stock market question you bring up. I agree that everyone has different levels of issues. What might appear a small issue to one might feel like a huge burden to another and vice versa. The truth is that most well off folks in this world do invest and diversify those investments to do it in a safe manner. Those accounts generally have set goals… some being more aggressive and some being very safe. The investor gets to choose that. In our world inflation is moving at a rate of 1-2% a year. Meaning the price of milk will be double in roughly 50 years. What cost $5 today will cost $10 then. Meaning if you have $1 now it’s worth $.50 then. If you don’t invest to offset inflation then you are not being penny smart in my eyes even if one might consider it gambling. Honestly I drive to work everyday and some might say thats a gamble. We take gambles and risks everyday. The difference for all of us is gambling on a known or an unknown. If you buy a house in a down market in a good neighborhood the likelihood is the house will go in value over the next 50 years. Is that a good or bad gamble/risk? Whose to say? I’m guessing Geordie would call that a gamble. I call it an investment and being smart with your money (penny smart). Also – When I was born there was 6billion people in the world. Now there are 7billion people. When I’m 80 there will be 8billion people in the world. It’s pretty simple math to see that the consumers are growing meaning demand will always be steadily moving up while resources will steadily moving down meaning that business is going to go well.
