Hi Monica, that must be a little stressful for sure. I know money pressures always made me want to gamble.
You could always let her know that you are having some money pressures of your own right now. If she is wasting a lot of her money on scratch offs etc is it your place to bail her out? Tell her if it is something urgent to check back later but for her to expect you to bail her out of her entire situation is unrealistic. You have children that need some help sometimes as well not to mention a savings sock or nest egg for in between jobs is a necessity for you with your insecure work situation. And as you said, you’d like to take a little time off work yourself. Recovery for me was a lot about the B words. Boundaries is one of them. Setting boundaries with people can be difficult but sometimes is needed for our mental health and addictions recovery. You are very kind to your family. But now you need to take care of you. Have a good day in work tomorrow.
Laura