Hi Miss J
I’m glad you have taken advice on securing your personal finances and I hope you are feeling less isolated now you can share on here.
There is nothing for you to be ashamed about – the addiction is not something that your fiancée wanted or asked for anymore than you did so there is nothing to blame yourself over. He probably gambled as so many thousands do without any problem but never dreamed that he would have the reaction that he has.
Nobody wants to play detective to the person they love but this is something that most F&F do when they first become aware of the addiction but when he controls his addiction the feeling that there is a need to police his actions will stop.
Please keep talking and please use the F&F group – it is only for F&F and is quite safe. Nothing said in the group appears on the forum. Everyone in the group is or has been affected by the addiction to gamble.
Speak soon
Velvet
