Hi Lizbeth ,
I identified a few years ago that feeling out down was a trigger for me. Once I identified it , as you have done , I too was able to see that putting others down is a deficit in the offender- not in me. Somehow put downs have lost their power over me.
Even on here I used to get annoyed at put downs – when I would write I am doing well or I have not gambled, there always seemed to be someone who had to put a “but” in.
…but you said that before
…but what can you do to stay this way
…but you know what will happen on pay day
…but you are still a cg ( or some equally offensive label).
Now I just let them keep their buts and their comments .
You have built your own family unit . Despite the problems that all families encounter from time to time, you have built a strong little family. You work together and support each other.
You have got the really important things right !
I can see why others would be jealous and feel they had to burst your bubble .
You don’t have to rise above it – you are already soaring xx