Hi Lil
nI cannot tell you what to do Lil, all decisions have to be yours but I believe, that It is important that you let your friend know that your boyfriend has a serious debilitating addiction so that he/she will know, in future, to keep monies safe. Theft if horrible especially when it gradually dawns on a person that there has been another loss. I suspect that you will have to tell your friend because your boyfriend is unlikely to do so.
nIt is hard to be tough but your boyfriends addiction will bring you down with it, if you allow it . You need to stay strong for yourself and your tiny baby never forget Lil how important and special you are.
nMaybe you could tell your boyfriend that you have sought support for you because you are so worried. Perhaps you could tell him that we have masses of support on this site for him, on our Helpline and in our facilitated gambler-only groups. Maybe he could try GA where he will be understood.
nDo you have family and friends to support you Lil? Perhaps you could find a Gam-Anon group near you, it is the sister group of GA and that is where your situation will be recognised. Whatever you decide to do, look after yourself and keep talking.
nI hope you will keep posting and please use our Helpline too. I cannot say it strongly enough but you matter and you need support. I wish I could say that if you do (a) or (b) that things will be alright but this addiction has no simple answers for those who love the gambler.
nSpeak soon
nVelvet
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