Hi KC,
Well done on looking for help. In reality your huge debts didn’t force you to gamble, your addiction did. Gambling is what caused the huge debts.
You are already getting some great advice. You keep emptying both your own and your wifes accounts? Then keep all the money in an account that you dan’t have access to. Speak to your relatives so that they don’t keep lending your money.
Get yourself excluded from where ever it is that you gamble.
You can stop gambling but it is a tough addiction – let us know what tough steps that you are going to take to start dealing wiht it.
Keep posting.