Hi Jds
Maybe it would be a good idea for you to think where you would like to be in the next 3 months, or even in 3 years because if you carry on letting your father press the same buttons all the time you will be writing a similar post – but you will be a lot poorer, your girlfriend will have less patience and less money and your father will have thrown a load more of your money at whatever it is he gambles on.
Your father doesn’t want to know how you feel, sadly he is only interested in the way that he feels and he feels he has to gamble. You cannot save him but you can refuse to feed his addiction.
Of course it isn’t fair that you cover for him so what can you do that is different this time?
Maybe you could tell him about this site, or GA or the GMA rehab.
If it was me I would tell him that he had pushed me too far and not to ask me for any more money because the answer will be ‘no’. When my CG changed his life he told me that as long as I enabled him he had no incentive to take on the challenge of controlling his addiction.
Please keep posting and read other posts in the F&F forum – it takes time for F&F to realise that they have to change too.
I will leave this reply with my favourite quote
You may never know what results come from your actions but if you do nothing there will be no results – Mahatma Gandi
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