Hi Ivy
It seems to me that while he has money he isn’t going to make any effort to stop gambling whilst blaming it on a seeming inability to do so which he justifies as being beyond him.
My concern is that as long as he has some access to money he will not hurt enough to really face his demons – a fairly typical ploy is just to gain a little more time for just one more gamble and the cycle continues. Have you sought legal advice on protecting your finances because creditors will seek redress from wherever they can?
You seem to be determined on your course of action and I am in no position to suggest you let him stay or tell him to leave. I delivered countless ultimatums without being aware that every time I caved in I was feeding a voracious addiction which revelled in my ignorance so I know that separating oneself from a CG is not an easy matter. It is very important to be very sure that this is what you really want.
You have said that your husband is a good dad and step dad, are your children aware of the situation and the reason behind it?
Is he aware of the Gordon Moody Association which is a fantastic rehab? I believe in informing CG loved ones, even when F&F have lost all hope, that there is good support available If they really want to change.
Keep posting and pushing your thoughts around
I wish you well
Velvet