Hi IDI,
Yes I have put a lot of time and energy into one issue and I would say maybe not ignoring the real reason I was upset but often in denial of what the real reason or reasons were. I feel like recovery opened my eyes in a lot of ways and continues to. Once I see something differently I can make different choices. And I think doing nothing, or changing nothing is a choice. Speaking for myself here. I will no longer play a victim. If I don’t like something I say it. Sometimes I still feel misunderstood but much stronger.
I’ve seen in different magazines where they show you the expensive version of something and then the cheap version. From furniture to light fixtures and pillows and accents. See if you have an online discount shop to browse. In my family we ask for very practical things for Christmas. There are usually a few surprises but mostly things like a new dish set or silicone oven mitts or a bed set. This year is new dishes for me from my mother plus she’ll give me a few treats. I was broke for a lot of years while I gambled and many after. I had to be practical about my gifts!
There are so many demands on our time when we are working, being a mother, being a wife, and being a volunteer that it can be hard to carve out a little time for our self. But we are worth it. So if you ever feel you need or want to add something to your support network, remember, you and your recovery are so worth it.
I’ve been a busy little bee yesterday and today, ticking things off my list. Just want to feel organized and in control for once in my life!
I should be around for the 10pm London time group if you are around later. I was out running an errand last night so missed it. If we miss each other have a good night!
Laura