Hi EHO
nI know how tough it is to love an unresponsive gambler and I also know how easy it is to become so wrapped up in the confusing world of addiction that you forget to look after that which is most important, namely yourself.
nI cannot know what you husband is doing, I do know that his lack of response is quite possibly due to him gambling and that he will probably not be thinking that he is withdrawing from you, his mind is just elsewhere.
nWhen I was where you are now EHO, I did everything wrong for all the right reasons. I called and I worried and I got no response, I lost sleep and I called some more but it didnt make any difference. When we keep doing the same thing and nothing happens, it is usually best to try something different.
nI suggest that you enjoy your time in your own country, do loads of things that make you and your children happy. Fill your days with happy thoughts rather than thoughts of gambling which make you unhappy.
nHe knows you are waiting for him; he knows that you love him but still he doesnt respond. I cannot tell you what to do but I do know that if it were me, I would stop calling him. You are second guessing and he is not making any effort to help you understand. You have made a brave move which will hopefully be a large part of helping him focus on what is important, when he is ready to accept his addiction. The addiction to gamble is a selfish addiction and sometimes a gambler needs to hurt himself before he faces his demons, you have given him the space to do just that and I know that took courage.
nKeep posting, I will keep listening and I will walk with you for as long as you want me to do so.
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