Hi Dove
I am dashing off a few words in case you return to the forum before anyone gets a chance to write the full reply that your post deserves but it is late and the best replies are not written when a person is tired.
You are doing the best thing for your partner posting here and learning about his addiction and the GMA programme; the knowledge will help you cope.
You cannot make your partner stop gambling, only he can do that but your understanding can be an important part of his recovery. It is better for CGs (compulsive gamblers) to be supported and the right support is so worthwhile.
Don’t be nervous, your partner could not be going to a better place if he is determined to control his addiction. He may gamble excessively before the date he is accepted or he may resolve to start his gamble-free life now in preparation but whatever he does, he is understood here. Listening to him is more important than asking questions. You can ask me or our Helpline anything that you want to know and you will be answered.
It would be great if you could join the F&F group on Tuesday between 20.00-21.00 hours UK time, nothing said in the group appears on the forum. It is safe and you will be understood,
My CG went through the GMA programme about 10 years ago but I remember the anxiety I felt about this experience and I will be happy to walk with you while you wait for him to go in – and also during the time that he is on the project.
It is because I know the addiction to gamble can be controlled that I am writing to you now.
I must away but I will write to you asap.
Velvet
