Hi Dell
It’s a bit late for me so this will just be a quick reply to let you know you have been heard and how much I appreciated your desire to help your partner because it is a fact that compulsive gamblers benefit from good support from their loved ones, so well done.
I understand his feelings of guilt but they are unnecessary because he didn’t ask for or want his addiction – I am sure he would love to be able to gamble as others do but the the nature of his problem means that he cannot gamble responsibly and possibly/probably never will be able to do so.
Listening is more important than trying to talk a CG (compulsive gambler) into stopping gambling or trying to help him deal with past relationships affected by his addiction. When you have gained knowledge of his addiction it will help you give good support – so keep posting.
Enjoying your time together is very important so have fun whilst taking great care of yourself. Keep up with your other friends and hobbies – don’t allow concern for his addiction to fill your mind 24 hours a day.
I will write again shortly by which time I will have put together some thoughts for you.
Velvet
