Hi Cat! First, I would like to tell you how important your posts are to me. Especially these last few days concerning my daughter. I found comfort in them and when I was down, I would reread all of the posts. They helped me get through. Cat, you know that my husband was a functioning alcoholic. He held down a job and would help do things around the home. He was very anti social. He had work friends and family. I couldn’t get him to take up a hobby especially as the years went by. In the beginning of our marriage, we fished a lot with the kids and enjoyed the out doors, but when the kids grew up, he stopped doing that also. I would have to say that Al Anon was a good for me. I attended many meetings and it helped me understand my role in his drinking. I never bought him his beer. I rarely drink. I had 2 foo foo drinks when my oldest Daughter and I went on our spa trip. That was the first time I drank in 5 years. It is strange but growing up around a lot of addiction, I made the promise to myself not to be a alcoholic and drug user but I couldn’t escape a gambling addiction. I think that I gambled a lot to escape my husband’s drinking issues and our home life. It did numb me. Maybe think about Al Anon. You could try a few meetings and see how it goes. I used to worry about when my husband retired and if he was just going to drink all the time. I was trying to make plans for us to travel, ect… He was going to retire in 3 years but he didn’t make it. I want you to have a happy retirement and not a stressful one!! I hope I am not over stepping in saying these things. I just want the best for you.
