It makes total sense and ive never looked at it that way, I will definitely give it a try and hope that I can change my behaviours and reactions to at least give it a go?
A few things that I struggle with are what words to use and how to talk to him, for example, he sometimes will hand his wages to me at the end of the week and then every now and again ask for will ask for it back bit by bit convinced that I don’t think he’s gambling it because it’s going to him in smaller amounts for petrol ( but the next day the car needs more) or cigarettes but then he never seems to have any, how do I approach these situations?
Another thing that frustrates the hell out of me is when I know he’s gambled and he swears blind that he hasn’t and comes up with a hundred and one reasons as to why he has no money left, this annoys the hell out of me because he knows that I know he has a problem, he knows that if he lies about it, it only makes it worse and he knows that all I have ever done is try to support him, so why not be honest with me and ask for help? I hate that he actually thinks that I am so stupid that I believe him!
Stacey