Your 1406 post has only just come up some weird reason. It’s a softness that other people can view as weakness. I once worked in a job with an excellent counsellor in the late 90s. She was exceptionally bright and very assertive in her work. Really good with people. She also made bad choices in men i cidentally dating a rogue. But my point is that she could be viewed as soft but she actually wasn’t. She just had a great ability to empathise and work on the feeling side of things. Some people thought she was a soft touch but she really wasn’t. She could see the good in people, as do I. She was well known in her field and a little like me, not so good on the personal life front. Seeing the good in people can lend itself to making some bad choices such as I have made, but I would sooner have that quality than its counterpart. Incidentally, your abstract thinking is a very good quality. I think ihave mentioned this before. It is the thinking of an entrepreneur. Not all of theideas will be good ones but there will be strokes of genius in there. If you ever get the chance at work to do psychometrics about personality types ala Myers Briggs and roles within a team I think you will find that you have some pretty unique qualities. When I did position within a team I usually get the leader, but also a trusted counsellor who can work on the feeling side of things, an empath. This creates its own problems cos sometimes I don’t know if it is my feelings or someone else’s. But I still prefer to be this way even if it can cause problems and I need a lot of time alone to avoid overwhelm.
So who you are is fine, we just have to be careful who we trust and the choices we make in friends and partners.
