Hey Jonny,
I hope you realize that my concern for you sitting on large sums comes from a place of exactly that. Concern. Many a time a CG who is moving along on their recovery road can have a total curve ball come at them. Good to have protections for those moments. A mental ban is the best ban but never hurts to keep barriers in place as much as possible. You are a valuable member here, as is everyone.
I can see both points of view and hope that you both realize you both had some valid thoughts! I will not discuss another person without them being a part of the conversation! That was not your transgression. And I’m not inviting comment about it. I totally hate conflict and honestly feel both of you could have behaved better. But I am not perfect either!
In the end if you know you are being honest then you have nothing to prove. This is your thread and you’ve found support here as well as provided so much support to others.
I’m wishing you a good gamble free day.
take care!
Laura