Hello Rupture
I am glad you found my comments a touch useful.
Ouch i never knew you could gamble as much as £6K on slot machines. That is alot of money.
To be honest playing online is more devastating than the casino’s. In the casino’s there is lower limits and when you play on line the stakes that can be placed are much higher.
It is a blessing in disguise that aleast one of the gambling websites the account is blocked however to sadly the process to unblock the account is very simple and easy to do. Also to open another account is very easy with another website. The process is so simple.
It is very pleasing to hear that you have got a refferal to see a psychologist and not letting yourself go down with him however it should be him seeing the psychologist and not you.
In reference to what triggers me to gamble is mainly boredom, stress, problems with children or wife.
It’s a way out to release all the frustrations that you are going through.
The buzz when you are winning as higher than someone that takes class a drugs however the winning streak does not continue.
I am based in the UK and in London and you can find betting shops on every main road here. I have spent almost 32 years of my life in this rut. I am more like a binge gambler over the last 20 years however the stakes are very high.
I still remember the first time i walked into a betting shop i asked a eldely man how to write out a bet and he told he wont show me because he has lost over a million pounds. I looked at him and thought that was not possible from the way be dressed and looked. Little did i know at the time that he was doing me the biggest favour of my life. I have lost over a million pounds over the last 30 years.
Each time i go back whether it is to a betting shop or online i think i am much more clamer and smarter and in self control. When i see people in betting shops at the end of the day all they want to do is win back the money they came in with on the day.
Only a few if that have seld control when it comes to gambling.
There are filters out there to stop your boyfreind going on to gambling websites however if he really wants to he can use a freinds phone or a member of staffs phone to place bets.
He can self exclude for a maximum of 5 years via gamstop. The only problem with that not every online company is registered with them however he does not know that. I was told about 90% companies are registered as of yesterday.
I am quite similar to your other half in the sense when i am gambling and my wife or mum says something to me it goes in one ear and out the other ear.
Sadly my wife said to me years ago if you could sell me you would. I eally beleive i could have done that as gambling is a serious addiction and it requires proffesional treatment.
I am trying to speak to local solicictors to help me self exclude for life as it has been a very devastating ride for me. I have just put the wheels in motion and if i can i will do that. Otherwise i will do the maximum self exclusion which is for a period of 5 years.
I hope this helps and if there is anything else i can help you with let me know.
Please also take into consideration your age you guys are only 27. There is so much time to change your life. I have a freind who was a compulsive gambler in the sense he went to the betting shop daily and the day he had his first child he stopped going. That was almost 5 years ago.
I think you have been more than supportive to him.
I am sure if you spoke to your family members about this they will all tell you to leave him however there is something there that is keeping you still with him. It ois for you to decide what steps to take going forward.
Wshing you all the very best