Thanks for the post on my thread Seri, you pose a difficult question. I have been in many difficult situations where no doubt my chequered past has held me back. Most vividly is losing a great job a couple of years ago because of my criminal record. I think the key for us all is acceptance, it really is quite difficult to accept the things we’ve done in the past, at times, but that is what we have to do.
Half the trouble is, I think, is that we think we know how the other person will react. However there is only one way to find out. You are not being dishonest by withholding things on a first date or a job interview, but some things are best left unsaid until a more appropriate time.
People are more likely to be understanding and compassionate once they get to know you.
The past is in the past and can not be changed, to be guilt ridden serves no purpose at all, (much like worrying serves no purpose). I’ve found over the years it has been much harder for me to accept the things I have done, than it has been for other people. I now accept all things a lot easier and I accept the despicable way I used to live, and the sickeningly depraved lengths I went to to get gambling money are in the past that’s how I used to be. I can accept that and live with that safe in the comfort I’m not like that now. If other people can’t accept that and it severs what appeared to be a good opportunity or relationship then that I’m afraid is their problem.
Geordie.