Very reflective and I liked reading it. And you are right, we are all different. .Personally, I like that you are getting your control over finances. For some CGs, someone may need to hold their finances for a lifetime. For some they won’t and control will gradually return. We are all individuals and rule books whether it is rigidly following GA principles or something else are meant sometimes to be broken. Even tried and tested rules will s etimes be completely wrong for an individual. That is what makes us so great and unique. There will never be another person like you or like me. How amazing is that?
I really get your stance on control of money as initially when I get any money for work I will also hand over control. I have to realise and own that I have not been good with money in my lifetime, initially because of a lack ofit and then having a lot but never spending it on some of the things that matter, ie home. I travelled a lot, gave away a lot to family, bought clothes or studied with it. I was pleased to hear that you had bought clothes and posted about it. Because as part of my recovery plan devised with idi, self esteem is one of the headers and feeling good about ourselves in some natty threads is very positive.
Sometimes I think we can be addicted to debt. I personally was bombarded some time ago by bitcoins, stocks and buying software to play with stocks. These guys never give up. . I looked at this and for me it was one hundred per cent gambling, so I chose not to have that in my life. I also see that the opposite viewpoint can also be true. I saw a programme about a young Afro Caribbean guy from humble origins who had made millions and just sits at his pc for one hour a day buying and selling stocks. I was in awe of what he had achieved. God, that would bea great life. But for me that is too like gambling. I would quickly lose control, but that is me. That is the thing about viewpoints. Two opposing viewpoints can both be right for that person holding the view. It is about respecting someone’s view but also being mindful that as Laura says, holding money may sometimes leave us a tad vulnerable if life should throw us an emotional curveball. One of the first things I learned in GA and here is that no emotional upset or pleasure, no matter what, is an excuse to go and gamble. When in action for me, it was always an excuse, the bigger the emotional upset the bigger the splurge. I used this as an excuse all the time.
Anyhoo great post jonny and hope to see you post soon. As a professional, I can see that you do self reflect, which is the part of any conscious persons emotional toolkit, and have good insight.
