Dear (((Liz)))! From my experience and others, the lead up to a significant anniversary like a death anniversary is actually harder than the day itself. I’m sorry you are depressed but that too will pass, and if it doesn’t, then it’s time to see a doctor. You have done an awful lot for everybody since your husband died. You remind me of myself, in the sense that when it comes to my daughter and her 3 daughters, that I’m always there to fill in the gap with child care. I still self-isolate if it has nothing to do with family. My granddaughter told me that self-isolation is negative coping. I think I knew that but I don’t have any interest in getting involved in my community. I prefer situations where I feel safe. You are always welcome to come here, but I don’t know why anyone would want to leave the sun and come to the cold and lots of snow. Carole
