You seem to be confused by your husband’s behaviour, Caroline. This was one of the ploys I used to allow myself to gamble. If I could confuse other people, it gave me power over them It’s a form of bullying. A very cowardly trait! Bullying scares people. I do not believe that your husband is unaware of the effect his behaviour has on you. I do not like the way you still defend him and try to play down his abuse. There is no other word for it except “abuse” Caroline. The longer you tolerate this nonsense the more habit forming it becomes. Someone has to break this cycle. I think you will be the person who does that. Your husband is acting and reacting in a very inappropriate way for a mature man and a father . I am not judging HIM just pointing out that this behaviour is not acceptable and will damage you and your children. Stay strong . Use all the support you can get and never give up hoping. There is a better life ahead Caroline.
