Charlster, that is an awesome post. I have read it and re-read it 3 times. I even sent the email I got informing me of your comment to my wife. That absolutely sums up me, but from another perspective. All I am doing is wallowing in what could have beens, instead of looking at the here and now and making positive steps and decisions going forwards.
I am trying to imagine 1 month’s time and lookin back to now imahinging what I would be complaining about. What will I say “I should have done…” about NOW. And then I focus on that.
Spend time with my son before he goes to Colombia with his mum.
Be present – don’t beat myself up over the past and don’t worry about the future.
Deal with the anxiety. if I am anxious, what am I anxious about.
Deal with gambling urges and accept them, but do not act upon them. Thinking about gambling is normal and will probably subside. Acting on them is fatal.
CLose my office.
Make an inventory of all our assets.
Pay the freelancers who are owed oney
List all our IP – make sure we keep that.
The list could go on and that is something I will do this weekend.
My son is 16months old, he will be almost 2 when he comes back from Colombia. I want to be in a much better place for both my wife and him. I am going to try and live in the here and now, not in the past or the future.
I will cut and paste your post for easy access – it is so spot on.
Many thanks for taking the time to post.
Much love
M