Cat, we all have to live our lives the way we see fit. I hope I didn’t come off as preachy to you as that wasn’t my intent. I wanted to share something with you. I left my Husband because of his drinking and we divorced. We were apart for 5 years. We had contact through work and were friendly to each other. During that time I fell in love with someone and we were going to marry. I called off the wedding and we broke up. I still was in love with my Husband. We got back together and remarried. He was still drinking. None of that changed. So, who was the sick one?? I went right back into the same mess. My Husband refused to go to AA. I was just saying that Al Anon helped me cope with his drinking. I am glad now that I did go back as I am afraid that they would have been no one to care for my Husband during his final days. And for that I am grateful that I was there for him. Life is strange. I try not to think about how different my life would have been if I had remarried. I believe things happen for a reason. It is obvious that you love your Husband. It sounds like you have been real busy going through stuff in the basement. A big undertaking with the remodel. All we can do Cat is work on ourselves. I know that I am a work in progress and that I still have a lot to learn. Have a great day!!!
