((((Carole))))
I feel for you now about that issue with your friend and her wayward husband! It is not easy to do the right thing in a situation you describe , which I think you did i. e tell her what everybody else most likely knows anyway (the wife is always the last to know)! Having to face him and listen to his threats can’t be easy! Every bully is a coward though, so I guess he will back off fast if you “square up” to him!
Glad your mom is being looked after but of course it is a big stress factor for you, especially if it brings back memories of your father. …….Talking about memories, I had my son’s G/F here at the weekend . She opened up a lot about her (private) situation. You know the story! All I could do was listen and say “none of us can change the past”……..My God, what memories!!!! My youngest son turned up too as it was their father’s birthday. Luckily some other family members came too (ten in all) otherwise I would have had to RUN to the nearest casino to escape from the bully boy! His visit was pre- announced with a very loud , aggressive phone call. I knew this was heading for yet another spoiled event. Spoiled brats try to spoil everyone’s lives! His mood switched however, when he saw there were more people here than he expected but I did get a fair lash of his tongue the next day. The girl in question had tears in her eyes. She said her dad always treated his mother in that aggressive and abusive manner and went on to treat her mum the same way………I dropped them all back to the city yesterday pm and I was very nearly spoiling my G free June, but I had barriers up so thank God I made it home “intact”! Tomorrow is the 30th. We are going to the UK on holidays on Tuesday so every minute between now and then will be accounted for between clearing up here , looking for clothes to pack, passports etc and I have a few business chores to do tomorrow too, so I think I can safely say, June has been a G free month. The last day I gambled was May 27th. My son was home that day. Co incidence? He sent me a text after midnight last night saying he needs help with his anger and he wises he could be more helpful and respectful to his parents!!! I gave him a few pointers . No word since! Time will tell. I pray every day that he will come back to the right road! Miracles DO happen!
Well done on resisting the urge to gamble, Carole. Gambling will make matters even more complicated as you well know!
