Hi Velvet,
I met my Son and his Girlfriend in the Coffee Shop. It was a difficult Cuppa as he is very angry at me for ruining his life. I have done this by telling people lies about him having financial & Medical problems, particularly his Grandparents as they are 70 yrs old.
He did admit that he has done a bit of gamling, but having not placed a bet in 3 weeks (incorrect but I didn’t argue the timeframe) he does not have a problem. I congratulated him on this and said I was very happy he had been able to stop for now. He stated (repeatedly) that he did not owe anybody money and showed me his bank balance with €1.023 in it as he had just been paid his wages. I showed hm letters from college and medical which were debts and medical Apts.
The rest of the college savings had been spent on a trip to Paris in Feb for him & his GF. No sign of the remaining balance of €2K because I can’t do maths.
He kept calling me Mad, and when I asked his GF if she thought I was mad she said no, to which he claimed was because I intimidated her, again she denied this. She was unable to anser if she thought he had a gambling problem. The other things that he threw out were intended to hurt (and did): Dad is easier to talk to, You push people away, You won’t listen to me, Your selfish and a need Drama!
The chat ended by him telling me I would realise in 2 months time how wrong I was. I left saying I hoped there would be a realisation on his part.
He came around to the house and got some of his clothes and the tears flowed from me.
Again stating that it was all my fault and that he would not be alive were it not for his GF.
I agreed that I was to blame for his anger right now at others knowing he was gambling but not to blame for his gambling this problem was in his life because he chose to do it.
He went straight to see my Mum (76) who lives alone & has altzheimers to tell her he was unale to stay at home as I was spreading lies about him. She was very upset & confused.
I continue to tell him I love him by text (every night) with a simple reply from him of “Night” a small word which is much appreciated 🙂
