Another great post Vera .
I don’t blame anyone for my addiction except a trauma that most people will never experience (please God) and a family in free fall- my spouse couldn’t stop me or help me – he was lost in his own devastation . . But we came through it all and we have survived all the stronger and happier for it .
We are good people and for whatever reason,we got lured into this addiction.
I’m not sure I know which post you are referring to but to announce to people that someone is a “cg” (u know how much I hate labels ) at Christmas smacks of vengefulness . It sounds like maybe a “loved one ” isn’t feeling the love this Christmas . If my spouse ever treated me like an object they could treat how they please in that way it would have a twin effect 1. I would be still lost in gambling unless someone else was able to give me the support and love I needed . 2. I would not be with that spouse .
If you cannot respect the people in your life – even if they Have an addiction , then perhaps you should do both of you a favour and move on and leave them be .
I understand what you say about being connected . I love my happy little family – each of us with our own imperfectations and each loving each other regardless.
I find the idea of someone setting out to disrupt someone else’s Christmas disgusting but I also have learned not to try to read others motives – we are not mind readers here at GT (although some seem to have elevated themselves to that position) and we can never tell what another is thinking , feeling or what their intentions are .
To me it sounds like someone is venting their bitterness because their loved one has removed himself / herself from their control Over Christmas –
-and for the record – I too always went out of my way to provide not only a fantastic Chrismas for my family – but also a fantastic life . I did my best always – even when that best did not measure up to the standards others feel they have the right to impose on me .
I too was the person who suffered most by gambling – how do I know ? – cos I asked my family and they don’t care about money – they care about me and my happiness . My family didn’t go without – I did .
So yes Vera – we are not demons – we are people who maybe others find easy to put down , especially from behind a computer screen. I know I’m a great mum – I know I have a great family – and if others want to think otherwise I do not have the arrogance to think that I can read their thoughts or motives – which rreally are none of my business anyway .
Happy Christmas everyone. You are just fantastic as you are – we all just need to control this small part of our life – and we all can do that !! Have a great festive season !