Sorry if I caused you to be angry or amazed, Debbie. That was never my intention. I was just trying to gain some insight into why things went so wrong for you and I really feel very sorry that you think I am insuating that you are responsible for the demise of your relationship.  As I said there are two sides to every story. Maybe I am projecting my own situation on to yours and looking on gambling as a common cause of the destruction of all relationships. There are of course many factors. Life is not clear cut.  As I spoke in the first person in most of my post, I think it should be obvious that I am talking more about myself than I am about you, Debbie.
I was just being the " devil’s advocate". Please do not be offended . What I read or write here can be easily misinterperated because it is of course, totally subjective. I would never ever judge another CG’s motives or actions. I am the person who could least afford do that because I have caused so much chaos in my own life and in the lives of others by my actions in the past…… Nor do I kick people when they are down. On the contrary, I have been accused of "picking up lame dogs" and have done so in the past to my detriment.
They say we see ourselves in others! Sometimes my expectations are two high. Maybe I expected you to read between the lines but on this occasion I have learned I was wrong and that I expected too much. I will have my post removed from your journal Debbie, in case it disturbs you when you read back.
Please accept my heartfelt apology!
 — 03/08/2012 20:55:37: post edited by vera.