[Jules618]

Hi All

This is my first post however had read many of the stories on here.

They have often helped me feel like I am not so alone and many people struggle with this terrible problem.

Hi all I have always gambled since 18 I guess but never too bad my worst back then was about $300 which im talking 20 years ago so was a big loss back then.

In the last three years I have been getting worse and worse, there is a club nearby which is open till 6am and I found myself there on many weekends till

closing time! I’d sit there for 6 hours playing!! or more.. It’s pathetic. I knew I had a problem my losses became bigger where now when I go its between $700-

1k that I loose a night. It’s something i just can no longer do to my family ( my kids ) I’m divorced. I hate myself the day after. I am on here today because again

I went and gambled and lost $700. A weeks wages for me. the last time I had a bender was 3 weeks ago and that was $500. I am trying to save and everytime

I get $1000 saved up, what do I go and do!!! I’m so sad and feel like a failure I just keep doing the same thing. I am seeing a councellor and I have excluded

myself from ALL clubs close to me for 5 years I have 4 to go, but guess what I just walk in and have never been questioned, so I keep going back. I have thought of

talking to the manager or whatever to tell them but who is going to do that. So that is not working! I know by signing the exclusion I should do the right thing and stay

away but hey!! I am the one with the addiction. I just am so frustrated with all the things I could of done with all the money I have lost the last few years its really sinful to

waste so much and soul destroying. The feeling the next day when you are numb and I look at my kids and just feel so low all day long. like today all savings gone.

I have tried so hard to save for different things and it feels amazing when I get some saved up , but then it’s all gone. luckily I have enough to pay my loans this week.I write in my phone why I

shouldnt gamble so I can read it before I go into a venue but I have never read it to myself once I have it in my head thats where I am going!!! I SO desperately need

willpower I do go a month sometimes since seeing my counsellor but then I end up at the club again. I WANT TO STOP. 🙁 I dont know what else I can do?

I always drink when I gamble my counsellor thinks I should go to AA although I do not drink all the time its just when I do I make the wrong decisions. I really look forward to becoming a regular on here and to anyone who can help support me, I truly want to move forward in my life I know I can just need to be focussed. Thanks Jx 

[finding_laura]

Hi Jules and welcome to the forum. I hope that by being here you continue to learn about this addiction and what you might be able to do to help yourself.

So these venues that you have banned from? Are they private casinos? Government run Casinos? Indian band casinos? There may be a way to make the ban more forceful depending on who owns the venues. An expression I heard often here and in GA is no money = no gambling! Is there anyone that can help you by holding onto your savings for you? Can you put them into a separate bank account that you can’t access without some difficulty? Barriers help us to stop and think. Getting as much support as you can is also helpful. Counseling can be a great tool. What about a gamblers anonymous meeting? There can be some really supportive people there. Not to mention hearing of others difficulties can help remind you of where this can take you. It is a progressive addiction/illness whatever you want to call it. It will get worse.

And of course starting a thread here and maintaining it will let others know you are serious about dealing with this. The support of the community can be immeasurable.

And last but not least, don’t give up! You can do this. We just have to keep making corrections to our course to get there.

take care,
Laura

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Can you move? I had to.

[charles]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[meme23]

I’m the same as you and for a long time have been gambling on and off. You’ve had a lot of stress and it can seem like a wonderful release at the time, only to cause you more stress the day after and wondering how you might pay your bills … then you might move things around a little bit and it can seem a little better, but as sure as anything those losses will keep on coming.

The advise on the AA may not be such a bad idea, you will probably find that amongst the group they all use (or have) used alcohol as a coping mechanism at some point and that’s helped to continue their journey

You aren’t alone, the advice here is very good and you clearly want to change from posting.

Moderators: if an establishment is participating in exclusion can it still take money from some who is excluded? Presumably they wouldn’t pay out under those terms?

[charles]

Hi Jules,

well done on looking for support here.

Who is going to speak to a manger to get banned? Someone who wants to stop gambling. I would recommend it.

If your counsellor thinks you should try AA then I would go there as well, what have you to lose? Have you tried GA?

If you do decide to carry on drinking then there are still a few thigns you can do to protect yourself. If you are gamblign the sort of figures you are talking about then you clearly go out with access to far more money then you need. if you only intend to buy a few drinks then just take enough money to cover those drinks. Then you can’t gamble no matter how tempted you get.

Put your money in an account that isn’t as easily accessible – then you can’t instantly act on an urge.

It is important to use support – if seeing your counsellor enable you to remain gamble free for a monththen see themmore often! Keep posting here between counselling sessions, get to GA meetings etc.

Keep posting, you can stop gambling.

[finding_laura]

Still with us Jules? How are you doing? Laura

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