[Thara]

Hi,

I´m new at this site but i have seen it on every casino site i have been on and thats a lot of them.
I think i have closed up about 20 sites and opened more along the way.
I have been free from gambling 3 month and then started to play again.
I have come clean to my husband twice after spending more than i wanted.
its an addiction and it seems like my brain takes over when i start.
well i´m i 40 year old woman, married, 2 children.
Have a good life in general but it all started when my husband worked to much and my job became boring.
From the begining it was just for fun, now its like my brain just tells me, just one more time maybe you can win.
The comersials at the TV does not make it any better, all the time everywhere.
I never thought i could be in so deep but i am.
Now my husband has been in Rome for a few days and i have cleaned the house, washed all the clothes.. did som painting and 🙁 gambled.
I dont have any money left and i feel guilty.
Its hard, what to say to my hubby?
Anxiety..
he doesnt understand how i could become like this because there is addiction in my family, drugs and alcohol but the thrills about gambling is more fun.
But it is not fun anymore.
I hate myself for playing.
I hate all the casinos making me feel this way.
But i have to try, i need to stop this once an for all.

sorry for the long journal :/ but this is me and I need to start over again.

regards //Thara

[velvet]

Hello Thara and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

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Take care

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[charles]

Hi Thara,

Well done on looking for help.

Read the other stories here, you will see a lot of things that you will relate to. You will also see the success stories – what are they doing that you can apply to your own situation?

Well done on closing those sites but, as you have found, there are a lot more out there. How about getting a blocker for your home PC? Gamblock.com is one though there are others.

Your husband knows about the problem, even if he doesn’t understand it. Ask him for his support. It sounds like you have easy access to funds with which to gamble? He could help you restrict that access, help you with accountability.

If he is working away then you certainly don’t need complete access to the household funds/savings.

What to say to him? Well it sounds like he will have heard most things in the past. So this time don’t just present him with the problem, show him what you are going to DO about it.

Show him this site, we have a Friends and Family Forum as well. Ask him to set the passwords on the blocker you are going to get, ask him to keep money in an account that you can’t access. It is an old saying – actions speak louder than words so show him what actions you are going to take.

Keep posting.

[Thara]

Thank you for the reply.
This is now the 5th day without gambling but it’s easy when the money is gone.
Today is a off work day and several hours alone.
I have decided to give it a go to go out walking/running just to clear my head a bit.
I have told my husband a few times that I want to transfer all the money into his account but he does not say very much about that.
But in the end of May when payed all the regular bills I’m gonna transfer the rest over to him. Just to be safe.
I have always been like alone is strong and I know that it’s not true because when you have this issues you really need someone to talk to.
I have been writing once in a while to the Swedish helpline but it doesn’t give me anything.
I know that they have support group meetings somewhere here in Sthlm and one of them is more like a Sekt and the other one is ordinary just like AA.
It’s hard to decide to go on one of those meetings.
I want to make it and I want to keep away from gambling.
This is a start and I have decided 🙂

Thank you.
Regards //T

[charles]

Hi Thara,

Here is a link that will help you find the GamblersAnonymous meetings in your area.

http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/addresses?page=1

If you are planbning to transfr the money to your husbands account then tell him now. Once the money is in your own account then that is when the urges are likely to return.

Keep posting.

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