[Dave1]

Day 1: It really doesn’t matter if you win or lose, you’ll just want to continue gambling. Win or lose, you will feel empty. It stops today, no more self-pity.

[Nick]

Hi Dave welcome to our forum , we are all compulsive gamblers on here and are all trying to overcome our addiction one way or another . You will get lots of excellent advice . Check out other peoples threads and you will see what i mean .

[Dave1]

Accepting that life sucks and not to expect too much from it

[CraigMac6]

But life doesnt suck, life is beautiful. Life is what you make of it my friend. While yes life might be tough right now, it will get better. Just focus on the positive things in your life. A positive attitude with get you through the tough times.
Its a blessing that you are making a positive change in your life today. Today is day 1 of your journey. You can do this and we are here to help.

[finding_laura]

Welcome to the forum Dave. Life does seem to suck when it’s in the middle of gambling chaos. But by taking a first step you can make changes to leave that behind. Slowly you can build a new life. Part of stopping gambling is learning to fill your time doing other things. After all we spend a lot of our time and attention gambling. When we stop we can’t just continue on without learning to add in positive activities and relationships. Or if we do we end up with an empty life. What are some of the things you liked to do before gambling? or things you would like to try? This is a marathon not a sprint. One slow step at a time. take care, Laura

[Dave1]

Gambling is my escape, because I cant cope with life.
I need to learn how to live again. I just want to numb everything. I’m no better then a drug addict.

I gambled, I experienced it and now I’m done with it. It’s over.

[marke]

Hello Dave
Just like you I got to a point where it doesn’t matter about the winning or losing. It is about the gambling.
I am on my 5th day since a gambling bender. Feeling pretty rubbish but was feeling suicidal on Sunday morning so am moving in the right direction.
As everyone says it is about small steps. Thinking of when you might gamble and avoiding those situations is very important and taking action like blocking software, self exclusions, handing over your finances.
This site is good and over the last 5 days it has really helped me to put down my thoughts so keep posting. I will keep an eye on your thread

[Dave1]

All the bad things that happened to me are because of gambling.

[lizbeth4]

Please don’t give up on yourself. Have you put up barriers to make it harder to gamble? Are you using resources to help in your recovery? Most of us gamble because something is missing in our lives or we don’t have the coping skills to work through the the stressors of life. You can regain your life. Life is good! Keep posting!!! Stay strong!

[Dave1]

It’s my 28th birthday in a few minutes and the perfect time to end my gambling career.

Been gambling since 17 and now it’s over. Been there, done that.

It will be a great reminder for having my birthday as my day 1.

I’ve decided to sign up for the gym. In 2015 I was going to the gym every day for 3 months and didn’t gamble for those 3 months. So It’s definitely going to help me.

There is absolutely no benefits in gambling. Winning only leads to raising the stakes and lose it all eventually.

Thank you all for the supportive words.

Since 2014 I have handed over my finances to family members. Since 2017 It’s being taken care of by a financial administrator. I get a budget every day and been gambling that for the most of the time. Also have made a lot of excuses to get more like asking money for gas and gamble it. There’s no need to make excuses from now on as I won’t gamble again.

The reason for my gambling is dissatisfaction. Not satisfied with what has become of my life (despair). And at the end of the day it’s all the fault of gambling. The addict seeks support in the very thing that is causing the problems (Allen Carr).

After my 3 months not gambling back in 2015, I began to work more and my study didn’t go well and I stopped going to the gym, instead I began to seek relief in gambling again.

No more ~ it’s over. It’s time to learn how to live life.

[Monica1]

May this be a year of renewal and no gambling!

[Dave1]

Thank you Monica, It will be, I wont dissapoint myself or anyone from now on

[kin]

Support!

[Dave1]

not gamble today

[Dave1]

Gambling is a never-ending cycle. Why bother?

I was an insecure guy, young, naive. I did not have the knowledge. I did not know better.

Now I’m wiser and I don’t have to live life by the choices I made in the past.

[Dave1]

I’ve been an idiot by gambling my life. Taking huge risks, just to get my thrill. It was never worth it.. and never will be.

What’s money worth when your health is deteriorating?

Money does not make me happy.

[marke]

4 days, well done.
I would have to say that money definitely doesn’t make anybody happy. It can help of course but it is not the be all and end all
I am thinking most of us on here don’t gamble for the money. There are many different reasons why we gamble, so I wouldn’t use the word idiot, it is being too harsh. Yes, we might feel like idiots, I know I often do, but I am looking at the reasons why I gambled and learning about them.
Gambling for me is like self harming (where I feel some sort of control away from “life”) . If someone was self harming by cutting themselves with a knife we would (I hope) offer them help and support, we wouldn’t call them an idiot. Help and support is what we all need to progress.
Ultimately if we continue to gamble it will take everything away from us, including our health. That has no price.
Keep going and keep posting

[Dave1]

Life’s tough. Gambling is easy. There’s not a day that I wake up and don’t have the urge to gamble. Struggling every day;
– Whats the point of life?
– Why have I put myself in so much misery?
– Whats the point of stopping now?
– What does it matter?

28 now; single; never been in a relationship. Never wanted to; fear of commitment. I hate children, never mind having my own. I’m struggling to find a job I like. Never liked any job. Studying something I don’t like. I have a job I don’t like. I have a huge student loan. I see other people enjoying things like relationships, children, days out. I don’t like these things. I don’t have friends. No hobbies. No passion. No purpose in life. Surviving.

I really want to believe it will get better, but I doubt it will. It’s my character, something I am, I can not change myself. I feel different then others; sometimes better, sometimes less. I hate connecting. I hate social media. I don’t have any accounts. I’m a ghost.

Years pass quickly, I haven’t made any progress in 10 years. Stuck, I still feel like I’m 18. Body ages, my mind does not want to grow up.

These are all just thoughts that I’m having.. my brain is ruined.

[Monica1]

Imagine reaching mid fifties and feeling the way you describe. That’s where I was. Life hadn’t panned put the way I had wanted and deep within I was angry about that and had given up. It was why the gambling started. You are being very down on yourself. Gambling will only make things worse. We have to seek support which may be counselling, expressing in our journal or GA. life can and will get better. We have to do the first three steps of GA. admit that we are powerless over gambling and that our lives had become unmanageable. Do you believe that a higher power can restore you. Do you believe that? Because I do. I am living proof of it. Nine months of destitution and illness and pain in recovery. What r u grateful for Dave? You are alive and u can make those little steps one day at a time. Early recovery will bring out of us the things we need to take a close look at. And then we go and get support with how we feel about that. It is one day at a time.

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